The Way of Tolerating People

> The Way of Tolerating People Wang Zhaixian Tolerating people brings harmony: Harmony is precious, and harmony brings happiness to the family, and unity and development make the country prosperous. If there is no harmony, the family will be scattered, the body will be destroyed, and the country will be destroyed...

The Way of Tolerating People Wang Zhaixian Tolerating people leads to harmony: Harmony is precious, harmony brings happiness to the family, and unites and develops the country to prosper. If there is no harmony, the family will be scattered, the body will be destroyed, and the country will be destroyed. But there is a price to pay for letting people in. For example, in order to make peace with Lot, Abram willingly gave up the good land to him and withdrew to avoid fighting and endured the invasion and occupation of the Philistines. In order to avoid civil war, Gideon did not quarrel with the Ephraimites. However, like Gideon, Jephthah encountered the Ephraimites' unreasonable quarrels and could not tolerate it. He used his sword and killed 42,000 of his compatriots. Jealousy and strife do not come from above, but are earthly and lustful. They are both evil. We must be alert to his schemes, pursue peace, maintain one mind, and live in peace. Tolerate others and win others: Society and the church are groups that are compatible with everyone and are formed by many different members. Those members who are considered weak, dishonorable, and unbeautiful are especially indispensable. So they must accommodate each other. As the ancients said: A single tree cannot make a forest, and a single beam cannot make a house. No matter how talented he is, he alone or a few people cannot achieve great things. Therefore, social and church cadres must have a broad mind, like a prime minister whose belly can support a boat, and like a sea that does not refuse small streams, so that people can live in harmony and share important tasks. There is no all-round talent in the world, and there is no useless talent. If talents are used appropriately, everyone will be a good talent; if talents are not used properly, everyone will be a mediocre talent. Record the long points to make up for the shortcomings, just use them. The church must gain people, and gain more people, but each person has different gifts, so we must tolerate their shortcomings, discover their strengths, abandon their shortcomings, make good use of their strengths, and let them develop the gifts they have received. Everyone performs their duties and is in harmony with each other. King David was kind-hearted and tolerant. Captain Joab was narrow-minded, incapable of resolving grievances, and incapable of accepting good people. Then two marshals accepted by David were assassinated, but he was finally executed. We must cherish the members of the church fellowship, respect each other, tolerate each other, and win people like fish. Tolerance means forgiving: For those of us who are not yet fully spiritually mature, we will inevitably have some verbal impulses when living together. At that time, you must remember God’s kindness and forgiveness to us. Because Joseph forgave and tolerated his brothers because he understood that what happened to him was due to God's good will. The reason why David did not dare to kill Saul was because he was God's anointed one. Forgiveness is based on longing for the Lord's love, but also based on weak understanding. Those who don't think about their own shortcomings blame others without compassion, only looking at the specks in others' eyes, not thinking about the logs in their own eyes. What God can forgive, He cannot forgive. The ancients said: "It is the most virtuous thing to forgive others when you see their faults as you have done yourself." He also said: "Forgiveness is to forgive others." Peter once said to the Lord: "My brother sins against me, can I forgive him seven times?" The Lord said to him: "Not seven times, but seventy-seven times." Therefore, in the future, whether in society, family or church, we will practice the way of forgiveness to forgive others. Practice the virtue of tolerance: Cultivate a compassionate heart. The Bible says: Blessed is the man who is merciful, for his righteousness obtains mercy. Some people say: If you sympathize with people's weaknesses and treat them with the compassion of a parent for their children, it will be easier to reject them. And we need to know more about others, because there are many misunderstandings. Before we understand each other, we should not judge or reject people. Pay attention to people's virtues, "Love does not take into account evil. Whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is honest, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is any praise, think about these things." (1 Corinthians 13:5). Human weakness is the tendency to find fault in others. Not appreciating people's virtues is a loss of love and the main reason for rejecting people. When a speaker began his speech, he put a square piece of white paper on the blackboard. Then he clicked a small dot in the center of the white paper. He asked the audience what they saw. Everyone said: "A black dot." The speaker said: "Hasn't anyone seen a big set of square white paper?" We need to develop the habit of paying attention to people's strengths and appreciating their strengths, so that everyone looks very cute to you. Speech should be gentle. The scriptures say: "A gentle answer subsides anger, but a violent word arouses anger." As the ancients said: "A word can make a country prosperous, but a word can destroy it. No matter where you think you are, you should cultivate gentleness in your words, so as not to go too far, lose justice, hurt feelings, destroy peace, and cause confrontation." Learn the patience of Christ. Concerning the patience of Christ, Peter said: "It is lovely if man suffers the pain of grievance in order to make his conscience worthy of God. If you are punished for your sins, what is your boast of being patient? If you are patient because you have done good and suffered, this is It is acceptable in the sight of God. For this is why you were called, because Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example, so that you should follow in his footsteps. "The ancients said: "There is peace in the Hall of Forbearance." It can be seen that if people want to live in harmony, they must pay all kinds of patience. Christians must be patient in everything because they know that God is watching us. Moreover, Christians must be submissive, work hard without complaining, do not retaliate when scolded, suffer injustice, do not discern when being harmed, and do not resist. As Wu Zi said: "If you are not harmonious with others, you cannot govern; if you are not harmonious with government, you cannot strengthen the country." A meek person is willing to tolerate others and can win others, and others will tolerate him, as if he is of the same mind and shares heavy responsibilities. Therefore, as a leader, we must ask the Lord for help more, train ourselves every day, and show Christ’s patience. (2 Thessalonians 3:5)