"Chinese mothers" need encouragement

"Chinese mothers" need encouragement Phoenix Zhuang Zhi Mom! This is a gift for you! My son, who is in college, came back from school during spring break. As soon as he entered the house, he couldn't help but feel...

"Chinese Mom" ​​needs encouragement Phoenix Zhuang Zhi Mom! This is a gift for you! My son, who is in college, came back from school during spring break. As soon as he entered the house, he eagerly grabbed a book from his schoolbag and handed it to me. "Wow! So cute!" I exclaimed happily and couldn't help hugging him. Hey! How interesting! My son gave me a children's book. I jokingly said, "Ha! Son! Are you going against it? It was me, the mother, who bought you children's books more than ten years ago. Isn't it your turn to tell me stories now?" "Mom! I know you like reading, and I guess you will like this book." My son said with a shy smile. Needless to say? How could you not like the books your son gave you? Moreover, the title of the book is I Love You More, a famous work by the author Laura Duksta. It has been listed on the New York Times bestseller list and has won several awards. The content of the book is a sweet dialogue between mother and son. The conclusion is that both mother and son say "I love you more" to each other. I carefully placed this book on the shelf dedicated to "valuable items" and then placed it on the display table in the living room. It was not that I wanted to make a fuss about it, but I was grateful for my son's "encouragement." However, as a mother, I still couldn't help but give him a chance to educate him: "Son! Maybe you don't know how much it means to me to give you this book, but what I'm most happy about is that you can "express your love" with actions. This is something we Chinese people lack, so in the future, when you get married and have children, you will have to strengthen your expression in this aspect!" My son put his arms around my shoulders and said with a smile, "Mom! Actually, my sister and I think we are very lucky because you don't look like a 'Chinese mother'!" What do you mean? Is this a compliment or a criticism? well! It’s really sad to say that over the years, I heard that in American schools, what children call “Chinese Mom” has become a specific term used to describe mothers who love to force their children to learn talents, care about their children’s scores, love to compare, and love to do everything. Although we Chinese mothers sometimes show some particularly competitive and aggressive behaviors, it is undeniable that the pressure on Chinese mothers’ shoulders is indeed not small! Mothers who work outside the home not only have to work hard in the workplace, but also have to take care of their children and take care of housework when they return home. The hard work is not to mention; while many of the housewives who stay at home have degrees that are of no use and often struggle in the boring and boring life and the exploration of self-worth. The most pitiful thing is that when some children's academic performance is not bright enough, their talents are not outstanding enough, or their behavior problems appear, mothers are always the first to be questioned. Mothers who work outside the home are immediately asked: "Are you too focused on work and neglecting your children?" And housewives are asked even more cruelly: "What on earth are you doing at home?" When the society or the media regards us "Chinese mothers" as "others" to some extent with mocking and sarcastic expressions, can they also kindly affirm that even if we have no merit, we still have hard work! At the same time, we can also understand that most of our Chinese mothers living overseas grew up in an educational environment where "everything is inferior except for reading." The instruction we received is to "study, study, study again; work hard, work hard, work hard again." So now we are working hard and seriously to be a good mother! Of course, in the American environment, it is not easy to educate children who can still retain traditional Chinese virtues. However, every Chinese mother still works hard to adapt, adjust, and improve without fear of hardship. How can we not admire this spirit and perseverance? So why don’t we give more encouragement to “Chinese mothers”? .