Tucson: What do you rely on to raise children

Tucson: What do you rely on to raise children (Special writer: Huiming) As soon as this proposition came out, most parents already had a well-prepared answer. With money in your pocket? Money has...

(Special writer: Huiming)

As soon as this proposition comes out, most parents already have a well-prepared answer. With money in your pocket? Money is not everything sometimes. Relying on the power in one's hands, power is only temporary after all. Therefore, relying on knowledge and technology not to lose at the starting line is the common answer of these parents. Chinese parents send their five- and six-year-old children to English training classes, and Chinese parents in the United States also send their five- and six-year-old children to local Chinese schools, hoping that hearing the starting guns of life in two languages ​​will be more advantageous than one. Today's U.S. Secretary of State Hillary is a strong woman, thoughtful and articulate, but compared to many insights about the world, her answer to "It takes a village to raise a child" is more attractive. What is a village? First of all, it was the countryside, Little Rock City, the town where her husband was born. It was a social environment that she would not have been exposed to before marrying Clinton. But she was able to decide to marry a smart man from the countryside in the middle of the United States and forgive him for his future mistakes because she understood that Clinton's success was even more difficult. A country boy with an alcoholic stepfather and who only remembered the education of his grandfather and mother could become a doctor at Yale because of his special tutor. This is her opinion. For us Chinese in the United States, the village should be a family environment. Parents should be the closest teachers to their children as they grow up. But unfortunately, due to deviations in the composition of the parents' knowledge structure or defects in the environment, it is impossible for children to obtain comprehensive knowledge and moral education, and as a result, the child's character may have certain deviations. Therefore, the second meaning of village should be community environment. I think that when Hillary saw that Clinton received so many black votes, or later read "Clinton's Biography", she began to understand the role that the village played in a person's education. This is also instructive to us. Most Chinese children grow up in an environment that lacks the kind of community-based family education in China. For example, in China, when a child grows up, he has the supervision, encouragement and persuasion of seven aunts and eight aunts. The child can find his own direction in this kind of education other than that of his parents. But it is different in the United States. Children spend all day with their parents, and they already feel a sense of aesthetic fatigue. Coupled with the strong power of American education that strengthens children's self-awareness, they often resist the parents' one-sided education. In other words, there is no external family education that can assist parents’ education. Once problems arise between children and parents, parents realize that they are not fully capable of educating their children on their own, and are almost powerless to face this reality. Therefore, in view of the insights of Hillary Village, the author believes that Chinese parents in the United States should take the initiative to establish this kind of village atmosphere and strengthen the education of their children. This kind of community power can be the various associations that children belong to, such as art groups, volunteer groups, churches, etc., but more importantly, it should be the Chinese groups themselves, using the trickles of traditional Chinese culture and ideas that each person possesses to form the mainstream of educating children. Compared with education by parents and schools, village education seems to focus more on morality, ideology, and aspirations. Technical and academic education is necessary, but the fact is that any child who benefits from village education must also be top-notch in academics and skills. Clinton's daughter Chelsea stars on the series "Making a Difference." This program focuses on organizations or individuals who have made significant contributions to helping others and society. Why would she make such a choice? Chelsea replied that when her mother Hillary was running for the US presidential election in 2008, she was moved by the stories of those selfless devotees and hoped to tell those stories to "help me live up to my grandmother's motto, 'Life is not about what happens to you, but how you deal with what happens to you.'" She also plans to donate the majority of her NBC salary to the Clinton Foundation and George Washington University Hospital. As a result of village education, Chelsea truly became the perfect girl. In the United States, we are also villagers in a Chinese village, and we can also let our children and the children of our friends receive care from the village.