American husband rejects Chinese culture, Chinese regrets marrying atypical Chinese son-in-law

American husband rejects Chinese culture, Chinese regrets marrying atypical Chinese son-in-law According to the US "World Journal" report, in Southern California, where various ethnic groups live together, Chinese and other ethnic groups communicate...

An American husband rejects Chinese culture and a Chinese regrets marrying an atypical Chinese son-in-law. According to the World Journal, Southern California, where all ethnic groups live together, has a long history of intermarriage between Chinese and interracial people, and there are many Chinese sons-in-law in mainstream communities. Most of the local politicians such as California Republican State Senator Xia Lebo, Los Angeles County Supervisor Antonovich, and Los Angeles County Police Chief Rebecca Lee have good relationships with the Chinese social circle, understand and respect Chinese cultural customs, and are willing to let their children learn Chinese and Chinese culture. However, there are also Chinese women who marry "atypical Chinese sons-in-law" and regret it beyond measure. This also makes their families in Mainland China very troubled but unable to help. Ms. Zhen, a 24-year-old from mainland China, was supposed to be a high-spirited young person who had just graduated from college and was about to enter society. However, she was already the mother of a two-year-old child. At the end of 2009, Ms. Zhen interrupted her two-year studies at a local community college and moved to the interior of California to marry her American husband, whom she had known for just over half a year. "It doesn't matter if you don't go to college. Many people in the United States don't go to college. After marriage, you can just stay at home and take care of your children without going out to work." On the eve of the wedding, the American husband vowed. Feeling overwhelmed by the unexpected pregnancy, Ms. Zhen had no choice but to drop out of school and get married since her mainland parents had never met her American son-in-law. After her marriage, Ms. Zhen realized that her American husband lacked understanding and respect for Chinese traditional culture and customs, and her life as a housewife had become like a cage. Ms. Zhen wanted to "confinement" after giving birth, but her American husband refused, "Don't mention those weird traditions in your country. In the United States, mothers do not need to confine themselves." During the confinement period, Ms. Zhen not only had to take care of her son full-time, but she also had to do all the housework as always. "According to her husband's request, she knelt on the ground and wiped the floor three times a day with disinfectant and water, because he walked around the house barefoot, so he had to wipe it clean." When Zhen’s mother learned about her daughter’s situation on the phone, she was so distressed that she burst into tears, “I can’t sit well during the confinement period, what if I get sick in the future?” Ms. Zhen, who has never had a car, has difficulty walking and has almost no social life at all. Even when she goes shopping for groceries, she can only be driven by her American husband. "He himself never touches Chinese food, and he never takes me to buy food in a Chinese supermarket." Ms. Zhen, who is not used to eating Western food, "can only stir-fry eggs and green leafy vegetables bought in American supermarkets. She has been married for more than two years and has never eaten a single meal of Chinese food." A few months ago, Ms. Zhen took a bus back to Los Angeles alone to renew her Chinese passport. She ate Chinese food that she had not seen for a long time at a relative's house. She looked so hungry that her relatives couldn't help but feel sorry for her. "With no education, no car, no job, and a child in tow, she is completely controlled by her husband." Ms. Zhen said that her father was diagnosed with myocarditis in China two years ago and planned to return home to visit relatives for two months. Since returning to China in the summer of 2008, he has never been back. But her husband was determined not to "return to China" with her. "He didn't want to go to China at all. No matter how much I tried to persuade him, he wouldn't agree." Not only that, but Ms. Zhen was also ordered to stay in China for only two weeks because she "didn't want the children to stay in China for too long." When the two elders of the Zhen family heard the news on the phone, they were so angry that they trembled and criticized their American son-in-law for not understanding (Chinese) rules. Jasmine, a Chinese girl who also married an American daughter-in-law, revealed that a distant cousin of her husband also married a Chinese woman many years ago, but she required her to speak English with her children. The Chinese lady once planned to bring her old mother who lived alone to take care of her grandson so that she could take care of the elderly, but her husband refused. The two children, who are now in eighth and ninth grade respectively, cannot speak Chinese. They spend most of their winter and summer vacations traveling around the United States with their father. They rarely go to China to visit their grandmother and relatives. They seem reluctant to mention the fact that they are half-Chinese. They even make fun of their mother's accented English in front of relatives and friends many times. Jasmine said that she and her husband had invited her cousin's family to celebrate Chinese New Year many times after they got married, but they were always rejected. She believed that this American cousin's repulsive attitude toward Chinese wives and Chinese cultural customs was completely inconsistent with the characteristics of a "Chinese son-in-law." According to a latest survey, 8.4% of marriages in the United States are interracial marriages, and Hispanics and Asians are still the ethnic groups with the highest number of interracial marriages. Compared with 2008, when the proportion of Asian interracial marriages was as high as 30.5%, it dropped slightly in 2010, but remained at 27.7%. The study also found that the rate of intermarriage among Asian men (17%) is more than half that of women (36%).