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Phoenix City Qi Ruhong: Correct Family Education (Alberta Times) The wedding ceremony of my son Guofeng and Qiong Yao finally went as planned on the auspicious Friday of November 11th...

(Alberta Times) The wedding ceremony of my son Guofeng and Qiong Yao was finally held successfully as scheduled on the auspicious Friday of November 11, 11. The dinner also ended in a joyous atmosphere for the guests and the host. There is no such thing as a banquet in the world. I would like to thank all my relatives and friends for attending. At the same time, two Chinese-language newspapers in Phoenix, the Alberta Times and the Western American Newspaper published in this issue on November 18, allocate precious space to report in detail, with pictures and texts, for which I am sincerely grateful. "A perfect match, a match made in heaven, a Chinese-style Qiong Yao wedding banquet is romantic and warm." The red headline on the A2 page of the Alberta Times is particularly eye-catching, and the large image also attracts readers' attention. "Reporter Sun Jianping's photo report" took a lot of thought to come up with it, and it really left a lasting impression on me. I am particularly grateful to Sun Jianping for her meticulous interviewing. She did not even omit my brief examples of how to observe her son’s qualifications and educate them: “This second child likes to knock since he was a child. He often bangs on the table with a pen or chopsticks. After discovering this characteristic of my son, I simply sent him to the Children's Cultural Palace to learn to play drums. "Back then, I allowed my child to enjoy playing drums and bought a set of jazz drums to take home so that he could continue playing them after school. Later, the teacher invited him to be the drummer for some of the school's celebrations. Having mentioned the example of educating children, I might as well talk about my position as a father. I have always advocated attaching importance to family education. Parents have a great power in educating their children and cannot be ignored. This is why ancient people wrote mottos about family management. However, tutoring must have appropriate methods. Being a parent is not about beating and scolding. It should focus on inducement rather than oppression. It should reduce the cane punishment and use more theoretical persuasion. It should respect the self-esteem of the little life and should not be contemptuous and insulting. When giving orders, you should explain them and let them understand and execute them. When I was in Vietnam, I paid attention to education issues early on and read a lot of information in newspapers on weekdays. I find that in the general social environment, many parents do not know how to teach their children, or to be precise, they use inappropriate methods. The biggest mistake is to always think that children are ignorant and ignore their feelings; when they are naughty and disobedient, they often use foul language and curse words. Xiao Li's mother keeps saying things like "bad boy", "dead girl bag", "Xian family shovel", "so many people have died but I can't see you die" and so on, which is unacceptable to the ears and damages the young mind. The easiest thing to offend is the confusion of love and hate attitudes, leaving children at a loss as to what to do. When he is in a good mood, he is accommodating, indulgent, and extremely protective. When there is a dispute or fight with other children, he will try his best to show favoritism to his own child, knowing that he is in the wrong. When a child is in a bad mood, he or she will be whipped and abused indiscriminately if he or she is slightly disobedient or makes any mistakes. Therefore, when I first became a father, I told my wife not to scold the baby no matter how naughty he was. I explained that according to reference materials, babies begin to be sensible in the mother's womb. There is a so-called "prenatal education" situation. During the pregnancy stage, they have to be careful about their words and deeds. After the child is born, he should be well educated, never abuse, and patiently counseled. My wife has a strong temper and will whip our children when she gets angry. Fortunately, I am a reasonable father who tries to stop her. My punishment methods are mostly to make the children stand for a while with their ears pulled, and to punish them with homework when they are studying, which kills two birds with one stone. Another point that is more important is not to negate the child's talent, carefully observe his/her play dynamics, and support his or her development accordingly. As I told the reporter above, when Guofeng was a child, he always liked to bang on the stage and stools. His mother was annoyed and tried to stop him, but it was always ineffective. So she decided to send him to learn to play the drums, and bought a drum set for him to take home, so that he could fulfill his hobby and become a little drummer. If he studies with a cheerful mind, his grades will naturally be excellent. It’s also like my eldest son Guoping, who loved to draw and draw when he was a child, and he also liked to touch and play with tape recorders. When he was just learning to play, he broke the antenna of the radio, which made me scream. It was the early days of liberation in the south, and there was a shortage of department stores. The market relied on foreign postal parcels. You can imagine how expensive a signal-receiving part was. After discovering my child's preferences, I first let him study art and painting in his spare time, and then let him learn to repair "radio radios". I remember that the tutor told me at the time that the child was young and might not be able to achieve success in his studies. I frankly said that I didn't have high requirements and didn't care about academic performance. I just wanted a place for disassembly and assembly so that the child could satisfy his curiosity and desire, rather than messing around and breaking parts at home. Educating children requires appropriate encouragement and must not be stingy with a few words of praise. The worst thing a parent can do is humiliate his or her children in public and damage their self-esteem. The worst thing a parent can do is boast about how great he was when he was your age, causing him to feel inferior. These two attitudes cannot help his children make progress, but will make them disgusted and give up on themselves. I am completely different. When I see my son writing poorly or not reading well, I will first praise him and say, "Oh, that's great, that's not bad!" and then follow up with corrections and encouragements. I will never pour cold water on him, so as not to cause him to become discouraged. It is the bounden duty of parents to nurture their children, and family education is very important. Unfortunately, some parents use wrong teaching methods, which makes their children uncomfortable and results in poor results.