Tu Sang Huiming: If you are wrong, you are wrong

Tu Sang Huiming: If you are wrong, you are wrong. People like to fight for face and be a fake strong person, a fake rich person or a hypocritical person. So I am obviously very poor, but I still like to drive classic cars...

Tusang Huiming: If you are wrong, you are wrong. People like to save face and be a fake strong person, a fake rich person or a hypocritical person. So even though he is very poor, he still likes to drive around in a classic car (an old antique car) and show off everywhere; even though he is eating instant noodles at home, he still likes to show off on the streets carrying brand-name bags. But I have seen another scene. The two people were at war with each other over a certain issue, like cowboys in the West, and almost took out their guns to teach each other a lesson. I saw one of them say something very shameless, and the opponent suddenly changed his face as if being touched by a martial arts master, and apologized cheerfully, not even giving up the face he had just earned. There is a large circular driveway in front of the medical school in my city. The driveway has two loops: the inner lane is for people who are suspended to get on and off patients, and the outer lane is for normal driving. The inner lane was full of cars that day, and there were no spaces left. Those who wanted to continue parking had to go around the outer lane over and over again, looking for opportunities to park in the inner lane. The car owner in front of me was a very tough lady. When she saw the car in front of me stopped in the outer lane, she honked the horn. It is forbidden to honk your horn when driving in American lanes, unless the car in front of you seriously violates traffic rules and the car behind you wants to warn you. This time too. The impatient guy behind me also honked his horn in agreement. It's so popular in the United States that everyone seems to be dissatisfied with the car blocking the road. But instead of getting out of the way, the man blocking the road opened the doors on both sides at the same time. The driver got out first, tall and tough, walked angrily to the back, and shouted louder than the horn: Why are you honking! ? I think it's time for us bystanders to help. However, two crutches came out from the other side of the gear door first, and then a woman walked out with crutches. The very angry and strong woman in front of me immediately walked out of the car door and apologized to both of them with a sincere look on her face. I also waved my hands in the car to apologize to the person who yelled. The American guys behind me were also silent at this moment. Because in the United States, respecting and being courteous to disabled people is the basic form of civilization. The people behind me just now wrongly blamed the parking person. Another time I took my son’s car to the swimming pool. My son had just gotten his driver's license for a week and wanted to show off his driving skills right away. As soon as he entered the parking lot, he turned towards the nearest parking space on the left and entered. But from the passenger seat, I saw a car on the left front waiting for this parking space. It turned out that they were waiting for us to come in and park the car out of politeness, but my son cleverly occupied the spot first. I quickly told my son that this was too much, and he should learn to be polite when driving. The person waiting for a seat was naturally very unhappy. Not only was he unhappy, he even got angry. He cursed and looked for another seat. In the locker room, the tall man walked straight towards me, his hand almost pointed to my nose, and educated me on civility and courtesy - he probably also knew the ancient Chinese saying that "if a son fails to teach, it is the father's fault." I originally wanted to apologize immediately, but when I heard the last sentence "I am ashamed of the Chinese", I felt very unhappy and angry. We were wrong, but why do you use race to talk about things? I was wearing swimming trunks and topless, and found the man by the pool. He looked calm on the outside, but the anger was burning in his heart: Sir, the child just got his driver's license and it was my father's fault that he didn't know the parking rules. I apologize to you. However, I don't like when you say that about Chinese people. Although that guy is a head taller than me, I am not afraid of him at the edge of the swimming pool. It doesn't matter if we don't talk to each other. The worst we can do is play Li Kui in the water. But the imaginary plot did not appear, but the person whose face was red from holding back relaxed, and took the initiative to reach out his hand to make peace with me. I also stretched out my hand stiffly - the energy was originally reserved for that person to fill the pool with water. The storm just disappeared. It is said that it is easy to deal with interpersonal relationships in the United States (of course, this refers to face-to-face communication, not the intrigues between companies and academia), and this is also true when you think about it. Because everyone’s bottom line is very clear, everyone is equal on the basis of civilization, rules and laws. Everyone can be very strong and be reasonable and not let others get away with it, but everyone should also be weak and be able to be reasonable and not let others get away with it. Many times, what this world lacks is the latter, especially when people with a lot of money can rely on a few aircraft carriers and banknotes to point their fingers at this and that, and they are very flamboyant. Japan, Germany, and now the United States have all experienced this, and now they have become a little bit submissive. Although they still say from time to time that you are also wrong, after all, you are reflecting on yourself. There is a future if you reflect on yourself, and if you correct it immediately like the above example, harmony will suddenly appear. If you insist on saving face, it will turn into a quarrel like a quarrel in a subway bus, and the image of the city and the country will be lost. Therefore, sometimes in life, a mistake is a mistake, but after being honest with each other, the sky will be clear.