[Phoenix PEN] Liang Shan: Why marriage makes American women ecstatic

[Phoenix PEN] Liang Shan: Why marriage makes American women ecstatic Tucson City Liangshan People who have watched too many American movies will have this impression, men and women...

Tucson City Liangshan

Anyone who has watched too many American movies will have the impression that although a boyfriend and girlfriend have been together for a long time, they have not mentioned marriage. One day, an opportunity comes, and the man holds a flower or a ring and says to the woman, "Will you marry me?" The woman must have been extremely excited and burst into tears. I originally thought this was the director's trick to let love endure more tests and add more romance to the movie. After living in the United States for many years and getting in touch with American men and women, I realized that this plot actually stems from real life. The status of women in the United States does seem to be very high. The laws and customs of the United States regard respecting women as the highest code of conduct. Therefore, women walk with great strides and drive cars at lightning speed, and they are not inferior to men in any way. Even if you fall in love with a boy or man, he will take the initiative to strike up a conversation with his charming eyes and will not give you any way out. Even in the quarrels and fights in life, women play the leading role, and the men are often scolded for being stupid. Leng might as well give the man a slap in the face and call the police, but the result is that the man is still unlucky.

In this way, women’s status in the United States is very good, why should they be so passive in marriage? If a man doesn't like you, just leave him. But not. The actual status of American women is not as high as described in the media. It is only in order to flaunt their characteristics and charm to outsiders that American women show a certain degree of independence in a specific period of time. In other situations, women are still women, just like women of other nationalities and races, there is no difference, especially in marriage. In the United States, it is not difficult to be in love, especially when a man and a woman call each other quickly, and the temperature naturally rises quickly. Often at the dinner table, one of them is talking about it, and the other is listening to it with infinite admiration. Before they finish talking and have not heard enough, they start a second battlefield. But over time, the essence hidden under the makeup will be revealed, and Americans, especially men, who like the new and dislike the old, will first become distracted. Even if we still go out every week, marriage is still "still waiting for me to think about it", day after day, year after year, making women wait eagerly. The day lilies were already cold while waiting, and when I heard the voice "Will you marry me?" I was naturally overjoyed. But what excites women is not just an emotional happy ending, but more importantly, financial guarantees. Many women in the United States are like men, working energetically as managers. The 40-year-old girl repairs the car with oily hands, and the 70-year-old Kongpo leads the passengers to do relaxation exercises. At first glance, others are really impressed. But everyone knows that this is also a helpless move. Sister, didn’t Meng Lang go too far when he was young and didn’t even learn how to type on a computer, so why would he get out of a car today? Grandma, my pension is enough. Who will go to heaven to get monkey sex? Therefore, having a marriage commitment means that at least you can live in the same room with your sweetheart without paying rent. If my sweetheart has a successful career and a good income, can't I, Miss, live a happy life as a housewife? This is really much easier than working hard in heaven and earth. These American men are very realistic these days. They are all as smart as monkeys. They believe in passion and love without getting married. Now that this man can hand over that flashing ring to me, can I not be so excited that she bursts into tears?

Once you get married, everything will be easier. Even if the relationship cools down in the future, you don't have to worry about breaking up. American law has always protected women. As long as the woman files a complaint and makes a request, the courts will always favor women in terms of finances and child support. Forget about dividing the family property, if the woman has evidence that the man used foul language and physical violence, all the property will belong to the woman (see "Why American Men Don't Get Married"). American men are actually very naive emotionally, or they pursue romantic feelings too much. They are often not wary when they meet the person they like. Few people will calmly notarize their pre-marital property before getting married. Therefore, once the divorce is reached, the originally penniless woman can get at least half of the family property. If she has underage children, she can also receive monthly support ranging from 500 to 1,000. The author knows a white American woman, and I can see that she is the kind of woman who really wants a stable home. It's a pity that the marriage is not successful because of the lack of charm. Although this does not prevent the crystallization of love from being produced one after another, in the eyes of others, dragging 5 or 6 children with different skin colors on the street all day feels a bit miserable. But this mother doesn't feel any pain at all, because if the marriage is successful, she has emotional and financial guarantees; if the marriage is not successful, each divorce can bring her different financial compensation and ensure a normal life for the children. After writing this, readers may understand why American women like marriage so much. Moreover, American men are not as narrow-minded as men in China or other countries. Marriage mainly depends on whether they like a woman. As for whether the woman has a history of marriage and whether she has several children, it does not matter. So, no matter how cumbersome the drag aunt looks on the outside, she understands it in her heart. She knows the added value of marriage better than any economist. There are still many families in the United States where two people are in love and live together as if they were husband and wife (sorry, to use the common description of college students living together in China). This is the case for the author's American boyfriend and girlfriend. Although they are not married, they bought a house together. Their two daughters call each other sweetly "Daddy and Mommy" all day long. To any outsider, they look like a happy family. But they were not married, they were just living together, and the two children were just children born out of wedlock (if they were in China, they wouldn't even be able to register their household registration). I originally thought that such a family was just an anomaly in American marriages. Later, as I climbed up the social ladder in the United States, I realized that this kind of non-marital cohabitation was not a minority. For money, Americans dare to do anything and are willing to do anything. Especially now that the composition of Americans has been changed by a large number of new immigrants, the bad habits of Mexicans and Chinese Americans are also changing the color of traditional American concepts. The man had been married once, and in that marriage almost all the money and house he had worked hard for for more than 10 years were wiped out, and they were all awarded to his ex-wife by the court. Therefore, this man is determined to carry out the test of marriage to the end and has lived together for 12 years without getting married. In his words, he can no longer leave everything in his life to a woman. Naturally, there are other reasons for this. For example, a man and a woman can each raise a child because they are not married, and they can take advantage of U.S. tax benefit loopholes to receive additional low-income subsidies, etc. Although to outsiders the family seems to be living a prosperous life, the woman often expresses her sincere envy of marriages in Chinese families like ours, and still looks forward to the day when her boyfriend will suddenly have an enlightenment and bring back a ring to seal the marriage. Because this kind of de facto marriage is not protected by law in the United States. In the event of a conflict between the two parties, the woman can only pack up and leave on her own. She may even get some child support, but sharing the family property equally is a luxury. In the United States, marriages disintegrate and men and women break up as easily as throwing a glass of cold water on them. Therefore, this unmarried mother cherishes this relationship very much. She has to put down her figure and cooperate with her boyfriend to continue the test of marriage. Do you think, after this stage of testing, one day even if her boyfriend doesn’t wear a ring, he just takes a rose and says something that everyone has said indiscriminately: "Will you marry me?" Can a woman not be ecstatic?