Qi Ruhong: There is a misunderstanding between speaking and listening

Qi Ruhong: There is a misunderstanding between speaking and listening Phoenix City Qi Ruhong Similar homophonic sounds are easy to make jokes, haha! Not bad, at least creating a joke unintentionally is better than saying...

Qi Ruhong: There is a misunderstanding between speaking and listening. Phoenix City Qi Ruhong has similar homophones and is easy to make a joke, haha! That's right, at least making jokes unintentionally is much better than speaking stiffly and coldly. This is what a reader reported to me, saying that some people speak with a solemn face, are unsmiling, awe-inspiring, and find it difficult to create harmonious feelings. Occasionally, they can make jokes during conversations, which is not a bad thing and is worth emulating. She is dissatisfied with the sanctimonious style and feels that she can be funny in her speech. Even if it has similar homophones, it is still interesting. It would be better if it can bring a sense of humor. It seems that it is acceptable for people to make jokes while talking, as long as such jokes do not damage personal dignity and reputation, there is no harm in it. In fact, jokes are made when speaking, not only in translated languages ​​​​or similar homophones, but also in many occasions when the speaker means one thing, the listener means another. This is a misunderstanding between speaking and listening. If you are not careful, it will happen. This is what Cantonese people often say "misunderstanding". A friend who lives in Los Angeles went to the market to buy sweet cakes. Since there was no price tag on the cake shop, he asked, "How much does this cake cost?" The salesperson replied in Cantonese: "Seven and a half cents a piece." The friend thought that a cake cost 75 C was very cheap, so he bought ten, paid a ten-dollar note, and waited for the repayment of two and a half yuan. It was then that I suddenly realized that what I just said in Cantonese, "one seven cents and a half", meant that the cake was priced at one dollar and seventy-five cents, not seventy-five cents per cake. This was a misunderstanding where the listener "could get it wrong". There are countless misunderstandings between speaking and listening; usually the speaker does not mean it, but the listener does it intentionally, causing the scope of his own imagination; or the speaker deliberately speaks ambiguously, misleading the listener, and causing the listener to miscalculate. In the past, China's blind marriages in feudal society relied on the orders of parents and the words of matchmakers. Those matchmakers often relied on their sharp tongue to make extravagant remarks, deliberately misunderstanding the listeners and promoting marriage. According to legend, a matchmaker proposed marriage to a poor man and boasted to the girl's family that the boy's family owned "ten acres of land, ten acres of land, twenty acres of lychee fields, a one-story-high house, and three stacks in front of the gods." The girl's family was very happy, thinking they had got a rich husband. However, when their daughter left the court, it turned out to be a small, low-rise house with no land or property. The girl's parents felt cheated and tried to find out who was guilty. The matchmaker defended plausibly: "I was not deceived at all. It was your own misunderstanding. Maybe my local pronunciation made you misunderstood. I made it clear, 'There is no land. In fact, there is no land.' "No land, no lychee garden." Well, "one high house" means you can touch the eaves with your hands, "three steps to the god" means you can reach the shrine after three steps in the hall. You think you have to go into the house three times to reach the shrine, so you can't blame me!" The matchmaker was quibbling. Her words were deliberately misleading. Since there is no land, why bother to emphasize it in her words? There is also a modern joke about misleading speech. There was a beautiful woman wearing cool and sexy clothes on a train. Several men sitting next to her opened their eyes and looked at the exposed cleavage. She thought of a clever plan to make money. She smiled and said to them: "Want to see my breasts? Just pay me and let you admire them." So a few lustful guys quickly paid, and the girl pulled down her top, pulled off her bra, and exposed her breasts for them to eat. Eyes were blessed; as these people cast their lustful gazes on their thighs, she understood what they meant and said, "Want to see the place where I gave birth? Please pay double the price." They paid immediately and waited anxiously for her to lift up her miniskirt and take off her panties; who knew that at this time, the train passed a hospital, and the beauty pointed to the front and said to everyone: "Please concentrate and look clearly, that's where I gave birth." Wow! The big men felt cheated, but had nothing to say. She made it clear that this was the place where the baby was born, and she did not specify that she was looking at her private parts! As for the speaker's unintentional intention and the listener's intention, it can also be represented by a joke in Tangshan countryside. Legend has it that a thief broke into a house late at night and heard a female voice inside the room whispering: "I want to get in but I don't want to get in, so I'm still doing it outside." The thief couldn't help but be startled, wondering if he had been discovered, so he stopped and did not dare to move. But he heard a male voice say: "Shh, keep your voice down, don't talk nonsense." The thief paused for a while. Seeing that no one came out, he was probably talking nonsense. He secretly blamed himself for being suspicious and continued to touch in. Suddenly he heard a female voice say: "It's in, yes, it's in already." The thief was frightened again. He looked around, but there was still no one to catch him, so he boldly moved forward. At this time, the female voice shouted again: "Ouch! Ouch! Brother, it's very deep!" Oh! The thief was really surprised this time. It turned out that the woman waited until she got deeper before calling the man to catch her. He immediately hid in a nook and cranny of the wall to avoid being discovered. After waiting for a while, he quietly exited with gentle steps. He heard a male voice calling: "It's coming out, it's about to come out, ah, it's coming out!" Wow, the thief turned around in panic and ran away. From these conversations, we can understand that speaking and listening are two aspects of the situation, and misunderstandings and misunderstandings may occur at any time. Therefore, when we hear any speech, we should not interpret it based on intuition alone, but use our brains to think and analyze whether it is reasonable. Otherwise, it will be a joke. It is not a problem if it is not important. If the family is like the married daughter, thinking that her daughter enjoys wealth and happiness, but turns out to be in poverty and life is in danger, that would be very regrettable.