Qi Ruhong: Be cautious when listening to speeches

Qi Ruhong: Be careful when listening to speeches Phoenix City Qi Ruhong In our daily conversations, speaking and listening are two aspects of the situation. Sometimes the speaker means the same thing...

Qi Ruhong: Be careful when listening to speeches Phoenix Qi Ruhong In our daily conversations, speaking and listening are two aspects of the situation. Sometimes the speaker means one thing, but the listener means another, which will cause misunderstandings and misunderstandings. Therefore, when we hear any speech, we should not interpret it based on intuition alone, but use our brains to think and analyze whether it is reasonable. Another important point is that the listener should be patient and wait for the speaker to express the complete meaning before giving an answer; or when the original intention is not clear, you may wish to ask questions clearly, so as to avoid unnecessary misunderstandings. Many times, the speaker speaks slowly and before he has finished the whole sentence, the listener has already understood the mistake and refutes quickly, which is a pity that damages the friendship. When I was a child, I worked as a child laborer in a glass factory. A master craftsman taught me that I must work seriously and follow the instructions of the masters carefully. If there is something I don’t understand when listening, ask questions immediately and don’t work in a muddle. It is easy to make mistakes. He also told me an unfortunate incident in which a blacksmith’s apprentice made a big mistake. Half a century ago, Vietnam cast iron utensils such as knives, axes, and chisels. It was all done by handicraft. The old iron plates were cut into small pieces and put into the coal furnace to be heated until they were soft. Then the technicians used long tongs to clamp them and put them on the anvil. A new apprentice was hired that day. The master blacksmith taught him how to hit the iron hard while the iron was hot. In order to make him do it in an orderly manner, the master gave instructions: "You have to pay attention. Hold the hammer high. I will nod and you will hit it." Oh my God! He was so confused that he hit the master on the head, causing a bloody mess! A man met a girl he hadn't seen for a long time while shopping and greeted her. The girl suspiciously whispered to the sister next to her: "I don't seem to know this person." He heard it and said slowly: "You are really shy. Are you pretending not to know me? I used to be your husband." Before he could finish his sentence, the girl slapped him, cursed him with "psycho" and walked away. In fact, he wanted to say "I used to be your husband's classmate", but he was humiliated for no reason. Another situation is a person who stutters, which the Cantonese people call "leaky mouth". This is an oral disorder that prevents the person from speaking a sentence smoothly. The first half of a sentence must be repeated several times to connect the second half. The listener can easily neglect and misunderstand. It is necessary to listen patiently to the entire sentence to understand the true meaning and then make a reasonable response. In the past, in Vietnam, the majority of overseas Chinese were Cantonese. In the morning, there were many delicious Cantonese-style noodle soups sold on the streets. The kind called Kway Teow in Chaozhou dialect was a favorite breakfast among the people. Cantonese people are accustomed to calling "boiled noodles", and there is an old saying for "boiled" which is "熝". There are still elders who like to call them "熝粉". Back then, there was a man who stuttered when he went to have breakfast, and he asked the vendor in an awkward manner: "Well, you should give it to me." In Cantonese, the word "熝" means "熝" (熝), which is the same as "liu" (liu). It was a busy day and the vendor was busy cooking. He didn't pay attention to many customers. He only remembered hearing about "熝六bowls". He quickly cooked six bowls of noodles in a row. When the waiter brought them out on a tray, oops! It was a mistake, there was only one diner, and that was entirely the result of a lack of careful listening. This situation is a bit like a person who stuttered in Hong Kong in the early days. He traveled to Beijing and was thirsty on the way. He walked to a beverage stall and planned to buy a bottle of soda. He asked how much it cost. The vendor held the cap opener and said, "XX yuan, can't you open it?" The person felt that the price was too expensive, so he pointed to the vendor and replied, "You open it?" The vendor was a master at serving customers flexibly. When he heard "open", he quickly opened the bottle cap and opened two bottles in a row. However, he heard the second half of the stutterer's sentence: "You are kidding me, the price is so expensive!" After saying that, he turned around and left. The vendor was furious. This kind of thing happens because the listener is not careful, has no patience to hear the whole sentence clearly, or does not understand the content of the speech, and makes a hasty decision on his own; learn from experience, whenever listening to other people's stories, do not make preconceptions and make quick judgments. Slow down, think with a clear mind, and then make a decision. During the period of Emperor Zhengde of the Ming Dynasty, there was an anecdote about Liang Chu, a politician in Guangdong who rose from official to chief minister of the cabinet and wrote a poem to celebrate his birthday, which can be used as a reference for careful listening. Legend has it that Liang Chu once went to attend a birthday party for his nephew's family surnamed Chai, and was despised by his wealthy relatives. He saw this in his eyes and tacitly understood it, appearing as if nothing had happened. The relatives and the magistrate wanted to make him look bad and suggested that he write a poem on white silk, but he refused as usual. , he agreed and came down, grinding ink and writing quickly. The first sentence was "The girl is not a girl." When they saw this indecent poem, everyone was unhappy. The rich relative even cursed and talked nonsense. Unexpectedly, the second sentence was "Chang'e came to the world in the moon." The meaning was completely different. The third sentence continued: "After giving birth to five boys, all will be thieves." The rich relative couldn't bear it anymore and yelled that this was a slander to slander the reputation of the Chai family brothers. The magistrate here actually dared to be so bold and threatened that real evidence must be produced. At this time, Liang Chu slowly wrote the last sentence: "Stealing flat peaches to honor the mother." The situation was immediately reversed, and the disparagement was turned into praise, and the whole hall cheered! This historical story undoubtedly also points out that one must be careful when listening to a speech, take the whole thing into consideration, wait until the end of the last words, express the meaning clearly, fully understand it, and then take the correct response. Otherwise, it will be taken out of context, half-understood or completely misunderstood, or even a good thing will turn into a bad thing, which will be really embarrassing.