Qi Ruhong: You also need to be skillful when speaking

Qi Ruhong: You also need to be skillful when speaking Phoenix City Qi Ruhong In the past two months, due to the trouble caused by seeing different translations of several cities, it has increased my leisure time with friends...

Qi Ruhong: You also need to be skillful in speaking. Phoenix Qi Ruhong In the past two months, due to the trouble caused by different translations of several cities, I have increased the topic of translation with my friends, and then noticed the similar homophonic jokes. I also discovered that in our daily conversations, between speaking and listening, there is a high chance of misunderstanding. A slight negligence will have the opposite effect. We must be careful when listening to avoid mistakes and regrets. At the same time, the speaker also has the responsibility to be careful with his words and speak clearly so as not to be misunderstood. Various data show that when people communicate, they must talk to each other. It is the most primitive action and an eternal gesture. The only difference is that different languages ​​must rely on translation to express thoughts. There is no difference in other aspects of dialogue. No matter what nationality, the situation between speaking and listening is the same. In other words, listeners must be cautious, but speakers must not be careless. In a society with very close interpersonal relationships, one must speak in a measured manner and not talk nonsense. As the saying goes, "what goes out of your mouth, goes into other people's ears," will leave a deep impression. If you always make irresponsible remarks, ignore the feelings of others, and "offend many people, but praise few people," you will be in trouble with your words and get burned. In the real world, you need to be skillful when speaking, speak according to the situation, and don't talk nonsense or regurgitate. "A word once spoken is hard to follow" is a truth that people understand; "A word is worth a thousand words" shows the importance of speaking, and you must not talk nonsense; "A promise is worth a thousand gold" means that you must keep your words, do not make promises lightly, and you must fulfill your promises. In society, everyone has to speak, every day. Some people's words are pleasant to the ear, while others' words are difficult to hear. This is a matter of speaking skills. In social situations, when talking to each other, you must have a basic understanding. Don't talk to yourself and be arrogant. You should take the other person's feelings into consideration. Whether you are speaking first or answering the topic, you must also examine the situation at hand, speak appropriate sentences, and show your character and speaking skills. A beautiful woman attended a banquet wearing a beautiful dress and was highly praised by her friends. However, she said, "It's not beautiful. I bought this dress at a street vendor." She thought this was a modesty, but it was an inappropriate answer that made the person who praised her feel embarrassed. Some people know how to talk. In the early days of Vietnam, there was an owner of a shop that sold ritual tents on the embankment. He met a friend whom he had not seen for a long time. After exchanging pleasantries, he unexpectedly asked, "How is the business?" As we all know, in the circle of Cantonese people, the words "empty" and "unfortunate" in Cantonese have the same pronunciation. To avoid taboos, everything that is empty is replaced by "auspicious", so there are words such as auspicious house, auspicious house, auspicious place, etc. As for "lucky", there are two interpretations. The positive side means that it is very auspicious, and the opposite side means that there is nothing. If a store closes its business at a loss, it is called closed. The owner of the memorial service store said, "I'm lucky if others are safe." He meant that other people's homes were safe and there were no funerals, so of course his business would be empty and he would have no income. Another story about speaking skills was about a chess master who was well-known in the club and had a somewhat arrogant attitude. Once, a friend who was even better at chess didn't like it and was determined to dampen his spirit. He invited him to discuss their chess skills and determine the outcome of the game. As a result, he lost three consecutive games. When he returned home, his neighbors asked about the result. He said nonchalantly: "The chess match was quite exciting. Our chess skills were equally matched. We were evenly matched and racked our brains to deal with every move. I didn't win the first game, but he didn't lose the second game. In the third game, I asked for a draw, but he just refused. There was nothing we could do!" Haha! This means that you need to be skillful in speaking. You have obviously failed, but you still say it very beautifully. It is like changing "repeated battles and defeats" to "repeated defeats and battles". It is a clever wording. Recently, the dialogue between US President Trump and North Korea's Kim Jong-un also uses speaking skills to compete with each other. Kim said: "The United States must think carefully about the fate of the proposed summit between North Korea and the United States if it jointly holds noisy military provocations with the South Korean authorities." The implication is that he wants to cancel the meeting, but does not say it clearly to leave room for maneuver; Trump's response: "It's very "Unfortunately, based on the extreme anger and open hostility shown in your recent statement, I feel that it is not appropriate to hold this long-planned meeting at this time." Then, he also cleverly arranged the tone of reservation: "For the well-being of the North Korean people, there will be opportunities to hold summits between the two countries in the future." The dialogue between the two heads of state also requires skills, but it is full of childishness, like two naughty children who love to play and make trouble. When they are angry, they scold and intimidate each other, then they become calm and happily praise each other, and then they are angry and stop playing with you. Although they each used their speaking skills, they thought it was too childish and not worthy of imitation.